Long before Fifty Shades of Grey there was Stella. And Stella had issues.
Despite her highly successful career, Stella had lost her mojo and was determined to get it back.
She was of a certain age and just not feeling as groovy as she once did. So what did Stella do?
She did what any woman cast in a starring role opposite Taye Diggs would do. She went to Jamaica and had a wild, passionate affair with a hunk of burning love. She definitely brought her sexy back.
But that was Stella, played by the beautiful Angela Bassett, and her story was fictional.
Even if you could afford to whisk yourself away to a romantic locale and discover a smoking hot lover (surprisingly this may be the same person who snores beside you at home), often this kind of reboot(y) is a temporary fix.
What I’m looking for is the real deal. If I’m feeling funky, frazzled, and fatigued, the farthest thing from my mind is suiting up in sexy lingerie and stilettos. (If you’ve seen my shoe collection, you know I’m taking creative license here.)
What I really want is for the brain fog to dissipate, the chaos to transform into clarity, and the fatigue to turn into sustainable energy. While a powerful love connection can do that, so can understanding and practicing the basics of mind-body nutrition, the phases of nourishment, and the soul lessons you came here to learn.
Yes, you read that right. I went from sex to science to spirituality in six sentences. Because you and I are whole beings and the only way to get our groove back is to stop pretending we aren’t and to get in touch with all of who we are, not just the easy parts.
One of the key concepts I’ve learned as a certified eating psychology coach and fitness instructor is we must step into our roles as kings and queens at midlife. Staying stuck in our roles and princes or princesses does not serve anyone. It may be where we are encouraged to stay by our society at large, but evolving into our higher selves is really the end game.
What do I mean by becoming kings and queens? I mean rightfully taking charge of and owning our challenges as well as our areas of expertise. It means contributing to our communities, serving those we are uniquely equipped to care for, and understanding the value of our experience, connections, and failures as well as successes.
It means we are no longer plagued with such silliness as, “Does this tiara make my butt look big?” or “Does this Jaguar impress you?” It means we now have time to make sure others have safe drinking water or proper child care or the ability to read and write.
The best way to get my groove back is to get in touch with what I am passionate about and actively pursue it. It may start out as a physical desire that turns into a mental pursuit that becomes a spiritual quest. Or it may just be all that at the same time.
For the next couple of weeks I’m inviting anyone approaching, in, or at midlife to take this survey and share your thoughts about aging gracefully and getting your groove back. My goal is get at least 100 responses by the end of October 2016. Anything you can do to help me meet this goal is very much appreciated.
Please click here to take this quick, 10-question survey. https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/7Y76B79
You see, I’m certain the way we make the world a better place by starting with ourselves and putting our best foot forward. I also know how difficult that is to do that when we feel less than groovy.
Your feedback will help me create a one-of-a-kind experience product that helps you transform feeling fat, fuzzy, or fatigued into fit, focused, and fabulous so you can do the work, enjoy the relationships, and contribute to the world in the way only you know how.
Thank you so much for your feedback.