Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – You’ve Got This

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Congratulations!

You made it through the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge. Let’s pop the cork and toast the successful completion of this challenge and the good fortune that brought us together.

I look forward to supporting you in achieving your deepest desires in 2017 and having a whole lot of fun along the way.

Why does this template look like this and not numbered lists and boxes and categories? Because we’re starting with the basics. Feel free to fancy it up and add as many lists, boxes, and categories as your heart desires. It’s your field guide to use as you like. If you want to add some support materials like day planners and schedules, by all means do.

But let’s start with the basics.

What do you want and why? How do you want to feel? Underneath all the striving and longing is a desire to feel something. Feeling drives everything. So what are those feelings and what are you willing to do to feel that way on a regular basis?

Do you want to feel alive, free, vibrant, rich, confident, healthy, sensuous, brilliant, gorgeous, generous, passionate? What exactly? I want to know. I also want to know what you are willing to do to experience this regularly.

Who do you have to support you and encourage you to along the way? You wouldn’t climb Mt. Everest without securing a Sherpa, setting up base camps, knowing the terrain, or studying the weather conditions. Don’t go into this alone.

Gather your ground crew and intel. Hire a coach, a personal trainer, a chef, someone to clean your house or shovel your snow, get a virtual assistant, do what you can to set yourself up for success.

Build daily wins into your Name It and Claim It blueprint. Our brains are wired for winning, so I want you to sprinkle as many small victories along the way as possible.

Wins can look like anything from stopping to notice the finches have discovered a full bird feeder outside your window to savoring a home cooked meal to finally beating your brother at Euchre.

Here are 6 key concepts to keep in mind as you move into the New Year.

  1. Thinking your way into your goals or intentions doesn’t work.

  2. Feeling your way into them does.

  3. Large, grandiose declarations that you can easily put off don’t work.

  4. Small, consistent daily actions do.

  5. Complicating things distracts, overwhelms, and pulls the focus away from your goals.

  6. Simplifying and being specific about small, easily executable actions allows you to focus and build unstoppable momentum.

You can download the template here.

Please join me on Facebook Live on Saturday, December 31 at 10am CST or Sunday, January 1 at 2pm CST where I’ll be discussing the Year In Review and Name It & Claim It process.

I’m sharing some of our Here to the New Year in Good Cheer tips on Paula Sands Live today at 3pm if you happen to be in our QC viewing area.

I’d love to hear your responses to these questions in the comments below.  Or join me over the weekend on Facebook.

Thanks so much for reading.  Happy New Year!

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P.S. Did I mention I have a Resolve to Evolve journal with your name on it?  Just leave your contact information below and I’ll get one in the mail to you.

 

 

Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Take Your Time

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When I lived in Santa Fe, I used to housesit and dogsit for people. When a friend’s mother  passed away, she asked if I would stay at her mother’s house until she and her sister decided what to do with it.

This was no ordinary house. This was a gorgeous ranch with a guest house in one of my favorite places on earth. I was sure everyone was mistaken and I was really the one who had died because this was my idea of heaven. The days I got to spend in that home among so many beautiful things were unforgettable.

My friend’s mother was a remarkable woman who had crafted an astonishingly elegant life for herself and the friends, family, horses, and canines that kept her company.

One evening as I sat on the porch watching a spectacular sunset the idea occurred to me that I couldn’t hang on to this place or this experience any more than my friend’s mother could. The only thing I could do was fully appreciate the time I had there.

This is why I’m so protective of this time at the end of the year and seem obsessed with making sense of the year coming to a close.  I’m acutely aware that, as the classic Seals and Croft song goes, “We may never pass this way again.”

So I want to make sure I’m present for it. That I don’t rush through it in my desire to move on to bigger, better, faster, or flashier. I want to take my time and give it the attention a full year of my life deserves. I hope you’ll do the same with yours.

With that said, I’ll take you through the rest of the Year in Review template and tomorrow I’ll give you a different one to look at the year ahead.

What were the products that rocked your world? Every year there is at least one thing I wonder how I ever lived without. Usually it’s an upgrade or improvement to something I use every day. It could be as simple as a new electric toothbrush, slim velvet hangers, a new skincare product, or an app that reminds me to meditate, move, or feed the fish. What are those things for you?

Who were the people who rocked your world? Just as there are products you can’t live without, there are people who make it all worthwhile. It could be your yoga teacher, your rabbi, a rock star, a writer, your next door neighbor, Alexander Hamilton, or the dog-treat-dispensing bank teller. I was inspired by so many people that this will have to be a separate blog post for me.

What books, blogs, movies, music, concerts, conversations, or workshop/seminars/coaching programs/retreats changed the way you think and feel? The thing I like to remember is I am only one thought away from a new perspective and a few dance moves or dog walk away from a better mood. As much as I like to think about things, I don’t act on them until I feel something. Often times I need a nudge in the form of reading material, listening material, phoning a friend, or giving in to the unbridled enthusiasm of two dogs who think they are going for a w-a-l-k.

How did your relationships change or shift this year? Did you get engaged, married, divorced, have a baby, lose a loved one, start a business, hire a coach, fire someone, rekindle a romance, move to a new neighborhood, or retire from your job? When your circumstances change, usually your relations shift as well.

What health, fitness, food, or spiritual practices did you try, tweak, test out, or keep up this year? Maybe you took up archery or turned into a total foodie, much to your surprise and delight. Maybe you started a hip hop class or became a Buddhist. Maybe you did a 21-day cleanse or tried acupuncture. Or maybe you suffered a debilitating illness that turned your world upside down and forced you to do everything differently. How have these new practices defined you or allowed you to reinvent yourself?

What is the smallest change you made that had the biggest impact? Did you start meditating for 5 minutes in the morning or stop drinking soda? Did you start leaving love notes in your spouse’s lunchbox? Did you take up taekwondo with your kid? Did you give up lattes for Lent and never looked back?

And finally, what were your greatest contributions this year? Maybe you spent a Saturday afternoon being a bell-ringer for the Salvation Army. Maybe you took 3 carloads of career ready clothes to Dressed for Success. Maybe you sponsored a child, saved yourself and your children and left an abusive relationship, or fed some local families during the holidays. Whatever you did, make a note of it. It mattered.

Tomorrow I’ll look at what you want to call in for 2017.  But for today, take your time and tell me about your year in the comments below.

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Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Have At It!

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Today’s tip in the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge is to start thinking about 2016 the way you would a dear friend who is celebrating a big birthday.

What can you recall about the year that made it so spectacular or noteworthy or different? Where did you go? What did you do? Who did you meet? What products or experiences changed how you do things?

Here’s a template you can use to think about the highlights of your year. I’ll share some examples from my year to get you started. Since it’s a long list, I’ll start with half the list today and finish up tomorrow.  Then on Friday I’ll provide you with a new (and different) template for Naming and Claiming what you want to create in 2017.

At the top, I’d love for you to give the year a name.  Maybe it is the same one you started the year with or maybe it morphed into something else as the year progressed.

For me it was The Stretch Year.  I ventured outside my comfort zone and made a couple of tv appearances, gave a few big presentations, invested in video equipment, and participated in coaching programs and challenges that stretched my vision of what’s possible.

Next, come up with six words to summarize the year. It will lend a laser like focus to the year. My six word summary for 2016 is “Leap and the net will appear.” If you don’t like six words, then change it to a theme song or a book or movie title. Just something that succinctly sums it up.

Where did you go in 2016?  Recall the places you went, the people you met, and the way these experiences changed you.

I traveled a lot early in the year. I wanted to go to Red Mountain Resort in St. George, Utah, for years. I finally got there in February. Of course, I wanted to move there immediately and work at the resort. This could be why I didn’t dare go there right after I bought my house.

In April I traveled to Austin, Texas, to a magical meeting of Martha Beck coaches and wanted to move there as well and live among the creatives.

In June I went to another art town, Savannah, Georgia, where my niece graduated from SCAD. Yes, I wanted to move there, too – but only in the winter.

And in August we took a very quick trip to Colorado for a family wedding. You already know I wanted to move there because “the mountains are calling and I must go” whenever I get the chance.

Who is your Person of the Year? If you happen to know him or her, great.  If not, that’s okay too. If you were inspired by several people, you can change this to People of the Year.

The Jake Arrieta bobble -head in my office and the stuffed Jake Arrieta plush toy I got for Christmas are sure give-aways as to my person of the year.

I embraced this Pilates-practicing pitcher for the Chicago Cubs as the poster guy for my How to Get Your Groove Back class because just a few years ago he almost gave up baseball for fear he had lost his groove. I figured if he could have such a phenomenal comeback, maybe I could too.

It really helped boost my credibility with the group that the Cubs went on to win the World Series (so actually the whole team qualifies for People of the Year), proving that it is possible to get your groove back in a remarkable way.

I also have to give a shout out to Nicole at Zappos. She completely restored my faith in customer service. Bob ordered a pair of boots for me as a Christmas gift that I needed to exchange. Or course the pair I wanted to exchange them for were a wee bit more expensive. (Okay, $50 more.)

“Not to worry,” Nicole said, “You know what? I’m going to do an even exchange. This is my favorite part of my job. I get to make these decisions and  I’ll send the new boots out tomorrow.  Just send the other ones back within 14 days.”  Happy Shoe Year, indeed!

What disrupted your life or changed life as you know it?  For better or for worse, what forced you to do things differently?  Hands down, Ruby O’Riley, the red lab puppy changed my life and disrupted my sleep patterns forever.

What were some of the biggest surprises of the year? These can be on a global level and a personal level. Did I mention the Cubs winning the World Series? Or the election?

On a personal level, running into 4 different people from my college years on 4 separate occasions in 4 different locations across the country and Canada was surprising. They reminded me of things I’d long forgotten and made me realize that even when I didn’t think I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up, the clues were there all along.

What were the biggest innovations or experiences that moved your life forward? What catapulted your career, your relationships, your health, or your finances to new heights?

My treadmill desk and standing desk continue to revolutionize the way I work. Creating a  How to Get Your Groove Back Facebook group along facilitating the Get Stuff Done 1×31 and Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenges forced me to learn technology on the fly. Nothing incites innovation more than publicly committing to do something.

Fiverr gave me affordable access to graphic designers. Mad Mimi and Publitas helped me automate some parts of my business that were beyond me until a few months ago.

The Gathering of Wayfinders conference in Austin and the Experience Product Masterclass I just completed changed my business model. Listening to TED talks and attending TEDx Naperville as well as participating in Brené Brown’s Daring Leadership and Leaders Rising courses kept me current on all kinds of topics.

They were also some of my biggest investments of time, money, and resources. Fortunately, they payed off in unexpected ways and unlikely connections.

What about you? What were your biggest investments? How did they pay off?

Epic failures are only epic if we don’t learn from them. What were some of yours?

I bought a lot of stuff I didn’t need in hopes that I would become a smarter, richer, younger, thinner, more confident, total badass version of my current self. I also had a challenging start to the school year that proved I have not begun to master the badass boss thing.

Okay, that should get you started. I’ll finish up with the rest of the prompts on Thursday. You can download the above worksheet here. This link will take you to Publitas where you will be able to download the worksheet by clicking on the download button to the left of the page. Or email me at penny@wellpower.com with the subject Year in Review in and I’ll email it to you.

I’d love to see what you’re coming up with. Share your highlights in the comments below.

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Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Let’s Review

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This week might be one of my favorite weeks of the year. Not just because I work in education and get this week off, but also because it gives me some breathing space.

I look forward to this time all year to reflect on the lessons learned, experience gained, relationships rekindled or lost, and the unexpected surprises that buoyed my spirits or broke my heart.

Some of these things were in my control and many of them were not. Either way this year  provided a continually expanding arena for me to rearrange my perception of my place in the universe.

In an effort to become more visible and accessible, I became aware of how small I’ve been playing for a long time and how safe it is to do so.  The minute I risked becoming more visible and having an opinion, an agenda, or an attitude, I risked opening myself to judgment, criticism, and haters.

I can live with that. It appears to be the price of admission to a non-apologetic life.

What I can’t live with is being a writer and censoring myself so as not to offend or otherwise ruffle a few feathers. There were many things that had me worked up this year. It was also the year I embarked on an Integrity Cleanse so not writing about them was not possible.

As a writer, my job is to articulate the emotions underneath the issues so you can feel them in a way you may not have, left to your own devices.

I take this job very seriously. And though I don’t get paid to do it or enjoy celebrity status because of it, it’s the most rewarding thing I do. Because of you.

If reading makes us feel less alone in the world, then writing makes us feel more understood.

The greatest satisfaction I get from writing is knowing that some of you are reading this and thinking,”I know exactly what she’s talking about.” Especially when I describe the crazy stuff or make an obscure reference to something you thought you were the only one who remembered or had an experience of.

After a long day at work, I know I can retreat to my writing room and send something out into the world that will come back with a reassuring, “I hear you, honeyWelcome to my world.”

As I begin my week-long year in review, I want to start with saying thank you for being a consistent source of delight in my world and an incentive to keep pushing the envelope, expressing unspoken hopes and fears, and sprinkling a healthy dose of humor on ridiculous situations.

In between dog walks, reading, and savoring some quiet time at home, today I’m working on a few templates I’ll share with you tomorrow.

In the meantime, please share your highlights from 2016 in the comments below or email them to me at penny@wellpower.com.

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Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Finish Strong

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Congratulations for sticking with me through the whole alphabet plan in the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge.  As you know, each day presents its own challenges. Since you can’t always depend on Plan A or even Plan B, you now have a whole alphabet plan in your arsenal.

But it doesn’t end here.

We’ve got one week left and this is when things can get tricky. It’s like you’ve been on this long road trip and you’re mere miles away from home when suddenly your car breaks down, you get pulled over for speeding, or you’re redirected on a detour that turns your minutes from home into hours.

How you handle this determines how you view the entire journey as well as how you approach future adventures.

Remember, you are equal to the challenge. You wouldn’t give up earlier in the challenge. Do not give up now. Don’t let fatigue or perceived failure stop you now. Put one foot in front of the other. You’ve got this, my friend.

Even if there are no hurdles left to jump and you plan to coast into the New Year without much thought, I’m asking you to give more.

This week reminds me of the Tibetan Buddhist concept of the bardo – an intermediate time between death and rebirth. So much depends on this week.

Pay particular attention to your thoughts and actions. Act with intention and do with deliberation.

If you can take the time and make the space to review your year, you’ll be much more likely to see the patterns, the people, and the places that impacted your well-being in the last twelve months. Then you can consciously choose whether you want to include them in the next twelve.

“Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” – Sir Winston Churchill

Acknowledge what went well and what didn’t. What did you learn and how can you leverage that in the New Year? What do you want and why do you want it? I mean really truly want and are willing to disrupt life as you know it to get, not those things you say you want every year but never quite get.

I’m not interested in resolutions that will be broken by 12:15am on 1/1/17. Resolutions seldom stick. We need “goals with soul” as Danielle Laporte calls them.

I’m interested in those things you want to create, do, be, or have that will keep you up at night dreaming and scheming and planning and collaborating until it comes to fruition.

And that starts with a little clarity.

This week I’ll be sharing some of the templates I use to do my Year In Review. Hopefully they will help you start thinking about what’s possible for you in 2017.

Regardless of how you’ve ended years in the past, this year I want you to finish strong. As they say, “It ain’t over, til it’s over.”

Use this week to amplify your output.  You know how you get super productive the day before you leave for an Alaskan cruise, Hawaiian vacation, or weekend getaway? This is the time to tie up loose ends, anchor out of control emotions, make things right in your relationships, and take care of any business you don’t want to drag into the New Year.

You are beginning Week 52 of 52 for 2016.  What would it take to make it your best one so far? Only you can define what that means to you.

Let me know in the comments below what you would like to accomplish this week so you can go into the New Year in Good Cheer – especially if that is to just have fun and completely relax because you’ve been crazy busy all year.

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P.S.  Do you need a notebook to write down your responses?  If so, I’ve got one for you.  Leave your information below and I’ll send a Resolve to Evolve notebook out to you in time for the New Year. Your information is safe with me.

Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Plan “X-Y-Z”

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It’s not that each of these letters aren’t worthy of their own plan in the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge. It’s just that I’d like to finish the whole alphabet plan this week so we can get down to business next week preparing to ring in the New Year.

Like a well-planned exit strategy from a job or a relationship or a location, a well-thought out exit strategy for the year will yield excellent results.

While you may yearn for a yacht, a yellow submarine, or a career in yodeling, you can’t get from zero to hero without a little strategic planning.

You may zig. You may zag. You may even zip around in order to convince yourself you are getting there fast.  But as Aretha once asked, Who’s zoomin’ who?” Let’s get real about what it’s going to take.

So after we have ourselves a merry little Christmas and make the yuletide gay, we’ll recap 2016. We’ll leverage what we’ve learned so we can leap into 2017 with every intention of 10Xing the results we can expect once we get clear on why we want them.

I appreciate you reading and working through the Alphabet Plan. All I want for Christmas is to hear how these tips helped you or someone you love through the holidays.

Please leave your comments below.  Or just pipe in and share how you are spending the holidays. What are your favorite traditions, foods, presents, places, or parties? I love learning from you and knowing what matters to you.

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P.S. If you’d like to trade in your fruitcake or other interesting gifts for a perfectly-sized Resolve to Evolve journal, just fill out the info below and I’ll send you one.  No need to send me the fruitcake in exchange though. 🙂

Here to the New Year in Good Cheer – Plan “W”

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Wow! We’re almost through the alphabet plan for the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge.  The letter “W” can wait no longer to wield its words of wisdom.

To a wellness consultant like me who’s wired to write about such things, today’s tip is well worth the wait.

When you feel the weight of the world is on you, walk in a winter wonderland. If you live where it’s warm, then waste no time wearing all the cold weather warranted gear, just get out and wander around until you wake up, witness, and welcome the opportunities whispering to you.

Whimpering, whining, and worrying about what might go wrong wages war on the peace you’ve cultivated throughout the challenge.

Forget about willpower and tap into your wellpower – that wonderous well of power that comes from wooing your inner wonder woman or superman out of hiding and into action working wonders.

This can be the most wonderful time of the year if you want it to be. Or it can be the worst. You get to decide.

Watch what you wish for. Knowing why you want what you want – whether it’s whimsical or whateverwill widen your chances of feeling satisfied when get it.

I want to hear about your winter walks in the comments below.  Do you whistle and go wild when you get to be the first woman (man or child) to make tracks in the snow ? Do your dogs wiggle and wag their tails at warp speed and whoop it up when they hear the word “walk”? Especially when the walk is in the wet, white stuff? How much do you want to wager that they won’t let you wipe their paws when they return? Oh, well

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