In case you missed what the No Matter What Game is all about, you can read about it here. All you really need to know is I will be posting my responses to random prompts by coach Gillian Pearce (who would be glad to do the same for you). By doing so, I get to practice my writing, she gets to practice her coaching, you get to see the creative process in action, and hopefully, you will be inspired to do a similar practice where you __________ (fill in the blank) No Matter What.
For some of you that may be to meditate for ten minutes or wait five minutes before responding emotionally to an email. It could be to that you walk the dog no matter what, play the fiddle, eat your veggies, wash the dishes, say I love you, read to your child, call your mother, the list is endless. You decide.
I decided to write no matter what. So here’s my response to Gillian’s prompt.
G: What are the pros and cons of surrendering to what is?
P: Ah, surrendering to what is … because it is what it is… and all that.
I had carefully crafted, saved, and sent a different response to myself earlier today. Thinking I’d only need to add a few lines and make a few edits this evening, I waited to open the attachment. When I did, most of what I’d written was missing.
Was I happy? No. Did I want to forget I thought this was a brilliant idea? Yes. Did I instantly remember why public challenges are so challenging? Absolutely.
And then it occurred to me it was the perfect way to illustrate the pros and cons of surrendering to what is.
I have a couple of choices as to how to proceed. I can painstakingly recreate what I wrote before. I can write something completely different. I can not write anything and lament an unfortunate onset of writer’s block.
Whatever I had planned for the perfect post has now morphed into something that simply shows I wrote no matter what happened to the first draft or how tired and frustrated I may be.
By surrendering to what is I open to myself to what is going on right here, right now. Whether I like it or not, I honor it and myself by feeling it, allowing it, and letting it go. If I look close enough, there is always a gift.
Where I get stuck is complaining about what is, judging it, wishing it were anything other than what it is. It’s also where I tend to overlook the lesson I could be learning.
I once heard someone say you can’t hate or resent your way out of anything. You can only love and accept your way out. The best way I can do that – maybe the only way – is to surrender to what is.
And there you have it.
Thanks for playing along with us!