If you’re like me, you have plenty of rainy day and someday projects waiting ever so patiently for you to find the time and inspiration to begin. Despite having enough rain to rival Seattle this summer, I haven’t gotten any closer to getting any of my pet projects done.
I promised myself after 8 months of participating in a coaching certification program, a couple of dietary detoxes, and the start of a website redesign, I would allow myself a little time to chill once it all came to a thrilling conclusion in May.
Since a body at rest tends to stay at rest, I feared a few weeks of R & R could turn into an entire summer. Fortunately, the opposite is also true. A body in motion tends to stay in motion.
With that idea I am challenging myself and anyone who cares to join me, to a Get Stuff Done 1×31 Day Challenge starting today. Yes, today. Carpe diem!
After talking with my friends Ann (aka Annspiration) and Gillian (who does Get It Done Fun Day coaching) over the weekend, I decided deliberate, intentional action is needed to move my life forward, not in leaps and bounds, but inch by inch.
So here’s the plan and I hope you’ll join me.
I’m picking one thing on my to-do, to-dream, to-become list and committing to do it each day in July. It has to be something I can do or at least initiate in a relatively short period of time – say 5-15 minutes – and does not require in depth planning, deep thought, or sophisticated equipment. Otherwise I will find an excuse not to do it. You will too. Trust me on this one.
For example, today I need to call the phone company. I recently broke up with my cable provider and am now enjoying a cable free summer, but still have the daunting task of sorting out the bill with Century Link. I tried the online chat the other day and got the worst customer service ever, so today I have to call them up and get to the bottom of things since my cable was bundled with my internet and phone service.
Putting it off does me no good. It actually drains my energy. Add enough of these subtle energy vampires to a day and I’m exhausted before I’ve even done anything.
But if I assign one of them to each day this month instead of attempting all of them at once, I’m much more likely to do them. And knowing I will do them on their assigned day means I don’t have to obsess about them until it’s their day.
I’m asking for your help because it’s way more fun to do this with others and we’re more likely to do these things when we’re accountable to each other.
How do you join me on the Get Stuff Done 1×31 Challenge?
You have a couple of options. You can either email each day at firstname.lastname@example.org with what you did or you can hop over to Facebook and join my Get Stuff Done 1×31 group. If you don’t like Facebook let me know if there is another format you like better and I’ll do my best to figure that out. Or just leave your comment below about what you are going to do today.
Remember… just one small doable thing. Fifteen minutes or less.
Let’s do this!
Before discovering Sirius XM and the singers and songwriters on the Coffee House, I was stuck in the 80s musically. Of this, I am not particularly proud.
Today I can easily sing along with almost any song because I absolutely love discovering new music. And let’s face it, I have a lot of catching up to do.
According to JibJab, the song of the summer is Shut Up and Dance With Me. Although I prefer the less offense directive “shut it” to “shut up”, it’s a very catchy tune and often times the only way to get someone you love on the dance floor.
One of the benefits of having over seventy needles poked in my face, ears, fingers, toes, arms, legs, and belly on a regular basis is not just the elimination of my allergies, but the triumphant return of Mr. Sandman and the Technicolor Dreams. In other words, I’m sleeping like a baby after decades of disturbed sleep.
Like Joseph, another Technicolor dreamer, my dreams are worthy of a musical. Based on last night’s review, my musical wants to be called none other than “Shut Up and Dance With Me.”
Actually the precise words delivered in the dream were “Ah… but we were asked to dance.”
This came after a jam packed day of College for Kids, meeting with the local press, staying late to meet publication deadlines for our fall catalog, and deciding to watch an artsy movie on Amazon Prime, since our satellite provider went out for the eighth time in two months.
The movie was called Still Life. It’s a slow moving, sad story about a bloke who lives alone and works in a sterile and solitary bureaucratic environment. His job is to find the family or friends of those who die alone so he can give them a proper burial. Unfortunately, these are usually people who have lived their lives in such a way that they’ve alienated anyone who might care.
But our protagonist cares in his odd and autistic way. Despite the depressing subject and the maddeningly methodical pace at which he performs his job, something compelled me to keep watching.
Maybe it’s the thing that compels us all to keep plugging away. The hope that what we do matters to someone. That at some point in our life someone will hear the same beat we move to and ask us to dance. Or we recognize it in others and ask them to dance.
The problem with watching a movie or television or engaging in media before bedtime is it’s much harder for me to quiet my mind. Especially if the information I’ve consumed is emotionally charged or unsettling.
When I finally got to sleep, my own version of Still Life unfolded. In the dream I was following a little bird through all kinds of quirky conundrums.
Despite the craziness, I remember feeling very much alive and pleased with this peculiar path. Just before I woke up someone joined me as we were perched precariously on the side of a building Spiderman style.
Realizing it’s all an absurd adventure that could end any minute, he smiled appreciatively and said like a true guru, “Ah… but we were asked to dance.”
And then I woke up to a chorus of birds chirping and presumably dancing outside my window.
I’d love to know how you are being asked to dance these days and, with all due respect, if you would “shut up and dance with me“?
Share if you dare in the comments below.
I spent the better of Sunday pondering the secret to sustainable success as I sliced and diced and cordoned off portions of dietary staples for the upcoming week.
In terms of sticking to my new eating plan, the unequivocal answer is preparation. From shopping to chopping it’s all about the prep. This explains the impressive collection of colorful ceramic knives I scored for my birthday along with some bamboo cutting boards and mixing spoons.
Had you asked me a year ago if I would be spending weekends frequenting farmer’s markets, foraging around local food co-ops, attempting to plant an herb garden, figuring out how to compost, consorting with nutritionists, or getting needled by acupuncturists, I would have assumed you had me confused with my Santa Fe friends.
The truth is I didn’t embrace this lifestyle until recently when I discovered that eating well is the fundamental secret to success.
Please don’t confuse eating well with eating extravagant meals, preparing elaborate dishes, or coupling exotic spices with complicated and hard to find ingredients.
Eating well in my book means eating whole foods you can easily pronounce, readily find, and effortlessly digest.
We’ve gotten carried away with convenience, making it the number one reason we eat what we eat, when we eat it, even why we eat it.
I get it. We are busy people. Convenience soothes a stressed out soul.
But it wreaks havoc on our health. It was certainly messing with mine and I knew better. Yet I felt incapable of competing with its allure. Until I decided I must.
It’s been a year long journey into learning how to nourish myself. I’ve experienced as many setbacks as successes. But I am profoundly changed by the lessons learned and transformed by my training as an Eating Psychology Coach.
How I previously defined success has been seriously called into question. I didn’t spend forty years wandering around the desert only to get to my personal Promised Land and decide I liked it better where I came from because it was more convenient.
Oh no. There is no going back. Not even for mango margaritas.
I haven’t reached my Promised Land before because it’s incredibly hard to get here. It’s even harder to stay. Consequently, I’m determined to set up shop.
The secret to sustainable success is we are responsible for sustaining it. We have to pay attention and work with intention every day, course correct, scratch some of our best ideas, begin again, ask for help, be generous, have fun, and remember to give thanks for living in the land of milk and honey – even if it comes with a few mosquitoes.
I couldn’t have arrived here before because, admittedly, I wasn’t ready. If I got too distracted, hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, all bets were off. I had no healthy snacks and I had no Plan B – or options for the rest of the alphabet, for that matter. In other words, I was not prepared.
I couldn’t recognize success for what it was because I couldn’t recognize myself for who I was becoming. Suffice it to say, it’s been a work in progress.
And now that work is cut out for me. It may appear to some as the same work I’ve been doing all along. However, coming from a new vantage point makes all the difference.
After 8 months of intense training, I’m thrilled to be able to call myself an Eating Psychology Coach and passionately practice the work that’s been a guiding force throughout my life.
In the next couple of months I’ll unveil my new website along with opportunities for you to join me in challenges and adventures that invite you to sustain your idea of success.
Sound fun? Hope so! Leave your questions or suggestions in the comments below.
It’s that time of year when unidentified flying objects are most likely graduation caps.
Many, many moons ago I addressed my graduating class in an enthusiastic attempt to say something profound about what awaited us. The truth is I had no clue.
What I know now is we’re always graduating from something. A job, a relationship, a role, a stage of life. Regardless if we’d rather stay where we are, life is relentlessly nudging on us to the next thing.
Several years I self-published a book and designed a scroll for a few students I was mentoring called “The Graduate’s Guide to Life.” The idea was to share life lessons learned along the way.
Although I offered these ideas in hopes of saving them the heartache, trouble, and consequences of making questionable decisions, these were precisely the things they needed to experience to grow their own brand of wisdom and confidence.
As an educator and avid reader, I like to learn as much as I can from as many different sources as possible. But nothing beats experience.
When I used to do corporate trainings, I’d often rely on the experts instead of myself. I’d repeat what the gurus were saying without fully embodying the message. This left me feeling like a fraud. Although the desire to educate was coming from a genuine place, the message wasn’t authentically mine.
I contrast this with the work I am doing now with my Eating Psychology Coaching and How to Get Your Groove Back classes. I have spent the last year immersed in this material and used my own body as an experiment to put this information to the test. I have made major lifestyle changes so I can speak from experience and understand what clients are going through.
The results are profoundly different and I have never felt more on purpose or in tune with my life’s work. It’s also taken me a lifetime to get here.
Which leads me to my favorite words of advice to any graduate and one of my favorite songs. Always trust your cape. (Even when it feels like an invisibility cloak.)
You see, I believe we each have superpowers. Despite protests and denials as to what these might be or how to activate them, I know you secretly know how, when, why, and where to best put them to use. Maybe it won’t be for years, but one day you will have no choice but to claim them.
In this day of constant comparison, it’s easy to get caught up in the fear of missing out. Of thinking you’ve missed the boat, missed your chance, missed your time to shine. Of convincing yourself that you are somehow not worthy and will never have the skills, smarts, looks, or advantages that someone else has.
Trust me on this. Your life is unfolding exactly as it should in order to gather the necessary experience. You can and will need to course correct as you gain more clarity. You are worthy, you matter, and you have something to contribute.
Never stop graduating.
Don your cap and gown – or cape as I like to call it – and celebrate. Then go fearlessly where life is calling you. The world really does need your gifts.
There is a series of children’s books written by Laura Joffe Numeroff and beautifully illustrated by Felicia Bond detailing the outrageous shenanigans that follow when a child takes a seemingly innocent first step like giving a moose a muffin, a dog a donut, a cat a cupcake, a pig a pancake, or giving the mouse who started the whole thing a cookie.
When I stepped into this experiment called getting my groove back a year ago, I had no idea I would be stepping into a similar situation as the unsuspecting character who gave the moose, the dog, the cat, the pig, and, of course, the mouse what they wanted.
As we’ve all learned even if we haven’t read these fabulous fables, one thing leads to another and another ad infinitum. Some of these things are hilarious, some are mischievous, some are expensive, some are silly, some are unfortunate, and some are surprising.
And surprise, it turns out, is one of the things that most of us try to avoid. But according to the authors of the fascinating book called Surprise: Embrace the Unpredictable and Engineer the Unexpected, it’s one of the things we should embrace in order to spark the best kind of change in our lives.
The thing about my journey or any journey is that we don’t ever really know what we’re in for, even if we think we do. The brilliance of our ignorance or beginner’s mind is absolutely essential if we are to be open to what lies ahead.
Preconceived notions or assumptions of how long it is going to take, how much it is going to cost, how easy or difficult it might be are usually based on our past experience or that of someone else.
Even though that experience may serve as a helpful guide, it will continually pull us out of the here and now if we are not open to the element of surprise and the many gifts of an unpredictable present.
For example, at the end of my How to Get Your Groove Back class I wanted to give participants the opportunity to physically experience what we had been discussing and understand what it felt like to change eating habits, improve energy levels, curb cravings, reduce hormonal fluctuations, etc.
So five of us embarked on a 21-Day Purification with the assistance of a functional medicine doctor and me, their newly certified Eating Psychology Coach.
Having done something similar six months ago, I thought I knew what we were getting into. Suffice it to say, I did not. Surprise! The first day my predominant thought was, “What was I thinking?” I’m sure the others were wondering the same.
But as the days progressed and we figured out what we could eat, found our comfort foods and figured out how to prepare them, and started losing weight and noticing a difference in our energy levels, skin, moods, and stress levels, we were amazed at how quickly we were adapting to the new world order.
In a very short time, we were able to make significant shifts in our outlook and health that previously none of us thought would be sustainable. Ironically, as much as we looked forward to Day 22, that’s when the real work started.
Like the unlikely actions that follow feeding a moose a muffin, I’ve become this version of myself I’d only imagined I could be. I’m actually excited about kitchen knives and cutting boards, joining a co-op, and spending the weekend tackling the clutter around every corner (while listening to The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo).
As Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” It wasn’t that I was unhappy before. I just knew if I wanted to get to my own personal Promised Land, I was going to have to take a different route if I intended to get there this lifetime.
So I did what we all need to do from time to time. I did what graduates and retirees and entrepreneurs the world over are urged to do. Give a moose a muffin. And let the adventures begin!
Share if you dare in the comments below. What grand adventures await you?
Birthdays are like New Year’s Day. They are an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and begin again, with more experience, courage, and hard won wisdom.
This year I am celebrating the beginning of my new year in the most unlikely of places, a remote fishing village on the Canadian border where snow is forecast for tomorrow. No part of it was my idea. Bermuda was my idea. But I’ll take any chance I get to put myself in front of a body of water, plug in my laptop, open a vein and let the words pour out.
This past year has been an intense one for me. Although I am impressed by what can happen when I consistently put my mind, energy, and resources behind an idea, I’m also ready for some rest and reflection. What better place to do that than in a rustic cabin where freezing rain and the threat of snow hamper any ideas of hiking?
The last time I was here, I was not a happy camper. I was experiencing hormonal shifts that were causing mild panic attacks, brain fog, mood swings, and general irritability.
What I didn’t know then but am acutely aware of now is even though you are told it’s just part of getting older and you’ll have to learn to live with it, it isn’t and you don’t. It’s just that most people don’t talk about it and therefore don’t understand there are plenty of things you can do to feel better. Suffering in silence is not one of them.
The past year for me has been all about getting my groove back and helping as many people as I can do the same. So many people have said to me, “I thought it was just me.” Or “I thought I was losing it.”
I found functional medicine doctors who could help me figure out the havoc my hormones were wreaking in response to the confused communications from command central. I don’t blame my brain for rallying the troupes around the wrong initiatives. I blame a lifetime of eating habits based on convenience, comfort, and toxic nutritional beliefs and generally checking out when I should have checked in and made some course corrections.
Dismantling the habits learned over a half a century required some serious commitment, along with a few costly mistakes, considerable investments in products and services, an adventurous spirit, and a healthy dose of humor. I read every book I could find on about nutrition, wellness, and becoming ageless.
A year later, after two 21-day detox/purification processes, learning to select and prepare nutritious foods, getting regular acupuncture treatments and exercise, and completing an 8-month eating psychology coaching certification program, I’m down 20 pounds. My blood pressure and cholesterol are down as well.
Is this the best gift I could give myself at this point in my life? Absolutely. Could I have done it sooner and saved myself a lot of grief and emotional anguish? Possibly. But in order to sustain this lifestyle shift, I had to understand why it mattered so much.
Although it would have helped me tremendously a decade ago, some journeys take time. It took Moses forty years to find his Promised Land. According to that timetable, I’m right on schedule.
There is no going back and pretending I don’t know what I now know. So though it’s been a little silent on the blogging front as I’ve been figuring this out, teaching classes, and meeting with local doctors and nutritionists, my goal for next year is to bring this information to you on a regular basis. I think of it as creating a GPS system so you don’t have to spend years wandering around the desert, questioning your sanity.
What about you? If you gave yourself the gift of a year, what would you love to accomplish so much that you’d be willing to put a plan together now to get there?
Share in the message below.